Blessed Friday Morning!
I didn’t chime in yesterday for Valentine’s Day. I, of all people, who has never been happier or more loved in all her life. Well, as an empath, I was overwhelmed by sadness yesterday. Not mine but of those who have lost the love of their life or had no one in their life. No matter what I did, I just could not shake it. As with any holiday, we must remember there are those suffering instead of celebrating. Yesterday instead of sending out happy wishes, I lit a candle and spent time lifting up those who have empty hearts. I have been there and have had those feelings. I know what that feels like. Take a moment today to lift up a little prayer for those whose hearts have experienced loss, have been broken, or simply have closed or hardened their heart to the pain. It is only when we open up and deal with the pain that true healing begins. Once healed then miraculous things can happen to bring the right person into your life. At least, it did for me.
Now, for a Valentine’s Story~Four years ago this month, the Divine powers that be brought Herb back into my life after 37 years apart. We were high school sweethearts for 3 years until my Dad broke us up. (Daddy’s little girl syndrome. Herb had long hair, drove a fast car and was in a band. Not the kind of life Daddy wanted for me.) He found me on Facebook and the rest is history. He arrived here in Florida on February 1st neither of us know if it was going to work or not. Thirty-seven years is a long time! People change. But the moment our eyes met all those years disappeared and it was like we were in high school again. The feelings had not changed and strangely enough, had grown even stronger. On May 1st, we will have been married 4 years now and it has been the happiest years of our lives. I quit believing in happily ever after, after 2 failed marriages and 3 abusive relationships. I spent 4 years seeking who I was and my purpose in life after the last failed relationship. I had to open up A LOT of old wounds and clean them out. The result? I first learned to love myself first, because if you don’t love yourself, you cannot love someone else properly. Secondly, I allowed my heart to be open again which lead to me to a life of compassion and love for others, within my own set boundaries. Boundaries are very important to maintain happiness in your life. The moral of today’s message~ never give up on love. At the right time, it will come.
Good Morning Beautiful Souls!
Blessed New Year to all of you. I know it has been a while. The holidays always open up mixed emotions for me and are also usually crazy around our home. I hope all of you found peace and comfort. Holidays can be a very stressful time for some. Those who have had loved ones pass, those who have not so happy memories of holidays past due to trauma and abuse, those who have no one in their lives like the homeless. This holiday season, I tried to focus less on my own life and send out good vibrations to those less fortunate whom have not experienced the happiness and joy I had in 2018. I prayed that their burdens would be light and the angels would give them at least a moment of peace. In doing so, the most miraculous thing happened! For the first time in years, I was at peace and we had a beautiful family time together.
Life is like the ocean. Sometimes, it just gently moves with ebb and flow. Sometimes it makes waves. And still, other times it is raising a tempest. I love the ocean. I can sit there for hours and feel the gentle ebb and flow. It brings so much peace to my soul. Other times, I like to walk in and let the waves hit me as I picture it washing away all the things that perplex me and I come out of the water feeling free. It is when the ocean is stirring up a tempest that fear sets in and I used to force myself to stare into it and say bring it! I have learned the tempests in my life are also important to break me loose from things that are holding me back, things that have me tethered like a boat to a dock, the complacency of just sitting watching the ebb and flow of life and not doing anything. The tempests of life shake us up and force us to move and to grow. As I look back at all the storms of my life, I finally realized how very important they were in shaping the woman I have become. Today, I stand in humble confidence and very grateful knowing the Universe sent those storms in my life to make me strong, and give me the ability to help others brave the storms and return to port victorious!
I don’t know about you but I am a planner. I have to do lists for my to do lists. For any event, I plan it down to the most minute detail. How many times have you planned everything to a T and at the last minute or the worst possible time something went wrong and then you are thrown into a tizzy and get mad at yourself for not planning for something to go wrong? My husband always says, “plan for the best but expect the worse!” My OCD perfectionist side screams, “NO, I will not allow anything to go wrong.” Well beautiful souls, I learned the hard way that I am not in control of everything, no matter how much planning I do ahead of time or how hard I work to make everything perfect.
The Universe is funny like that. Sometimes things happen that at the moment seem bad to allow for better things to happen. It is not always convenience and comfortable but the lessons learned are very valuable. We learn to work through situations instead of letting them destroy us. In the parable about the King and the Boulder (author unknown) there is a very valuable lesson to learn about obstacles. To paraphrase the parable, This king placed a huge boulder in the middle of the road. The people of the kingdom would come upon the boulder and start complaining. One day, a peasant happened by and moved the boulder out of his way. Underneath it he found a purse full of coin. The moral of the story, as I see it, is great riches can be had if we deal with the obstacles in our lives instead of sitting back and complaining about them.
What obstacle in your life have you been complaining about? Is it your health? Finances? Maybe your job? Maybe you sit back and look at your life and think, “this is not what I dreamed my life would be.” Oh the best made plans! In my youth, I dreamed of being a famous singer, a teacher, a wife and mother. Never once in those times when I was dreaming did I say, ” I want to be a 2x divorcee, give birth to 4 children and lose 2 in death. I want to be in 3 very abusive relationships that will scar my very soul. I want to lose everything and be crippled up in a near fatal accident.” I didn’t dream it or plan for it, but those things happened to me. It took me many years of struggle with that “boulder in the road”, but I can tell you today, because I made the effort to do the work to remove the boulders in my way, I am happily married, have 43 children who call me Mom, I am a teacher and minister to the souls of many and I sing to my heart’s content. No, I am not a famous singer, but I am known for my voice in my local area and that is good enough for me, for now. The scars have been erased from my soul. Thanks to a wonderful friend and reiki healer, I am no longer crippled up from my accident. Do I still have to do lists for my to do lists? Hell yeah! However, now when those obstacles drop in my path instead of getting upset and flustered, I drop back, access the situation and come up with a strategy to overcome the boulder in my path and have found valuable treasures awaiting me.
Until next time,
Good Morning Beautiful Souls,
As the autumns winds begin to blow, changes begin. It is a time of delving into the shadows and releasing things that no longer serve you. For many months now I have been struggling with what my true mission here on this earth was suppose to be. I have been though so many life experiences, that I didn’t know which story to tell or where my gifts would fit into the scheme of things.
The past couple weeks there have been some major changes taking place in our lives. The business where my husband works was sold and has switched hands causing major worries about whether his job was safe or not. The band he plays with has been getting more gigs and is building momentum it may be necessary for him to retire from his brick & mortar job to be free to travel. While this has all been very stressful, in maintaining an attitude of gratitude and not allowing the situation to control our emotions, it has lead to my making a major leap towards my own goals. Thus the name change on this page. I have finally found my niche and my brand. I have spent my whole life living in, overcome, and surviving traumas (and dramas). My gift and passion is to help others do the same.
During this time when the world focuses on what they are thankful for, I am very grateful for the experiences I have lived through and overcome. I am grateful to you family for sticking with me through thick and thin. I am grateful for my “Sisters” who have been with me every step of the way these past 4 years to help bring me to where I am today. And, I am grateful to the Divine for allowing me to chose this time and place to share my wisdom, love and gifts with the world.