What is Your Choice?

The one constant thing in life is change. If you are not changing you are not growing. And as always in growing, there are growing pains. We have been going through a lot of changes in our life in the past few months and some of it has been quite painful as we finally had to come to grips with the fact that the things we experience in our lives are of our own choosing. What? Wait? I chose this trial, challenge or hardship in my life? Yep, that’s right you did! By words and deeds, we tell the Universe what to send into our lives to learn the lessons we are supposed to master. The Universe wants us to live happy, abundant lives. If we are constantly complaining about what is happening, what we don’t have, how sucky life is, that is what the Universe will send for us to learn to be thankful for what we do have. I recently heard this example from a mentor, Jenn Scalia. Her laptop was acting up. She continued to complain about it and use the excuse that she couldn’t afford a new one. Then one day it crashed and then she was forced into the choice of buying a new one. (I interject here that this was not a laptop used for social media or play but used for her online business and a vital tool for her.) My point is our words and deeds, and even our thoughts, force us into a situation that may not be favorable or comfortable for us. Isn’t it better to make the choice yourself? Isn’t it better to take the initiative to take positive action on your own, instead of being forced to take action?

Why Me Syndrome

I have noticed ( and I am guilty of doing it myself because I am not perfect) that people are continually complaining about the wrong things happening in their lives. I have to continually remind myself that the more I complain about it, the more wrong things happen in my life. So, I have implemented a little exercise in my life that might help others also. When things happen that are out of my expectations and out of my control, I take back my control by immediately replacing those complaints (verbally, I might add) with 3 things that are going right or 3 things I am grateful for. Life is only as hard as we make it. You have a choice whether to wallow in self pity and complain about everything that is going wrong OR start being grateful for the things that are good in your life. The more we are grateful for even the smallest of things and voice that gratitude, the more the Universe ( God, Divine, whatever form of faith you ascribe to) will send more good into your life. Imagine for a moment: you are a parent, spouse, partner and you surprise the person you love with a red rose. They immediately say. “Red, why are you giving me a red rose. You know my favorite color is purple?” or “why did you bring me a rose, you know I don’t like cut flowers, only live plants.” Think about how you would feel. That is exactly how the Divine feels when it sends challenges our way and all we do is complain about them. The Divine wants us to grow, prosper, and ascend to a higher level of vibration. It wants us to learn to overcome, even the smallest of challenges and continue to become the person we are meant to be here on this earth in this appointed time. I challenge you, next time you are faced with something that is uncomfortable, makes you upset or angry, instead of asking “WHY ME?”, ask what is the lesson you are trying to teach me? What part of me do I have to change to continue growing on my journey.

Many Blessings


What Do You Believe?

Greetings Beautiful Souls!  Today I want to speak to you about what you believe.
Belief- 1.) Acceptance that a statement is true or that something exists
             2.) Trust, faith or confidence in someone or something.
Alexander Hamilton said, “If you don’t stand for something you will fall for anything.” Malcolm X took this one step further in saying, “A man who stands for nothing will fall for everything.”
Today, I see too many people being swayed like blades of grass in the wind every time a new idea comes along. Long forgotten are the days when people were steadfast in their beliefs and stood up for them, whether it made them popular or not. The things that were morally wrong have become morally right and visa versa, and heavens forbid if you stand on your morals, virtues, and integrity in today’s world because then you are politically incorrect. Recently my integrity was brought into question. Not my lack of, mind you, but the fact that I stand on my integrity.
People sit back and bitch about the current state of our government, economy, etc. I boil it all down to the shifting sands of belief. It used to be a man’s word meant something and a handshake was a done deal. Now you have to have a 100 page ( I know I am exaggerating) contract written up just to cover your ass and make the other party uphold their end of a deal. It used to be if someone was caught in a crime they were hung for it. Now we have self-confessed murderers sitting on death row for YEARS, while we the taxpayers pay for their creature comforts of food, water, shelter, while homeless people are literally starving and dying on the streets of our nation, many of whom are veterans who served this country with years of their lives. Many had no choice because they were drafted into wars, like our Korean and Vietnam Vets who have been treated poorly by the people and our government since returning home. We have groups giving aid to refugees, when there are children starving to death right here in our own country and if you speak out about it you are labeled a nonhumanitarian.
“Where is all this leading?” you ask. My question to you is, “What do you believe”? Do you have a strong sense of beliefs or do you sway with every political and/or religious trend? Do you believe everything you hear or see on tv, the internet, etc., or do you search out the truth for yourself? Those who know me know , I am NOT a religious or political person. I do have a strong set standard of beliefs I adhere to called the 9 Noble Virtues, like the 10 Commandments that tell me what I Shall Do, not what I shall not do. I weigh everything in my life against these Virtues and grow each day in body, mind, and spirit, knowing that I can not and will not be swayed from my beliefs.
I challenge you to start by searching your heart, look at the man/woman in the mirror and ask yourself, ” is what I believe? Are these my own beliefs or is what I believe what I have been told to believe by parents, grandparents, siblings, ministers, or peers?

Just Another Day

Blessed Friday Morning!

I didn’t chime in yesterday for Valentine’s Day. I, of all people, who has never been happier or more loved in all her life. Well, as an empath, I was overwhelmed by sadness yesterday. Not mine but of those who have lost the love of their life or had no one in their life. No matter what I did, I just could not shake it. As with any holiday, we must remember there are those suffering instead of celebrating. Yesterday instead of sending out happy wishes, I lit a candle and spent time lifting up those who have empty hearts. I have been there and have had those feelings. I know what that feels like. Take a moment today to lift up a little prayer for those whose hearts have experienced loss, have been broken, or simply have closed or hardened their heart to the pain. It is only when we open up and deal with the pain that true healing begins. Once healed then miraculous things can happen to bring the right person into your life. At least, it did for me.

Now, for a Valentine’s Story~Four years ago this month, the Divine powers that be brought Herb back into my life after 37 years apart. We were high school sweethearts for 3 years until my Dad broke us up. (Daddy’s little girl syndrome. Herb had long hair, drove a fast car and was in a band. Not the kind of life Daddy wanted for me.) He found me on Facebook and the rest is history. He arrived here in Florida on February 1st neither of us know if it was going to work or not. Thirty-seven years is a long time! People change. But the moment our eyes met all those years disappeared and it was like we were in high school again. The feelings had not changed and strangely enough, had grown even stronger. On May 1st, we will have been married 4 years now and it has been the happiest years of our lives. I quit believing in happily ever after, after 2 failed marriages and 3 abusive relationships. I spent 4 years seeking who I was and my purpose in life after the last failed relationship. I had to open up A LOT of old wounds and clean them out. The result? I first learned to love myself first, because if you don’t love yourself, you cannot love someone else properly. Secondly, I allowed my heart to be open again which lead to me to a life of compassion and love for others, within my own set boundaries. Boundaries are very important to maintain happiness in your life. The moral of today’s message~ never give up on love. At the right time, it will come.

Many Blessings!


Ebb and Flow

Good Morning Beautiful Souls!

Blessed New Year to all of you.  I know it has been a while.  The holidays always open up mixed emotions for me and are also usually crazy around our home.  I hope all of you found peace and comfort.  Holidays can be a very stressful time for some. Those who have had loved ones pass, those who have not so happy memories of holidays past due to trauma and abuse, those who have no one in their lives like the homeless.  This holiday season, I tried to focus less on my own life and send out good vibrations to those less fortunate whom have not experienced the happiness and joy I had in 2018.  I prayed that their burdens would be light and the angels would give them at least a moment of peace.  In doing so, the most miraculous thing happened!  For the first time in years, I was at peace and we had a beautiful family time together.

Life is like the ocean.  Sometimes, it just gently moves with ebb and flow.  Sometimes it makes waves.  And still, other times it is raising a tempest.   I love the ocean.  I can sit there for hours and feel the gentle ebb and flow.  It brings so much peace to my soul.  Other times, I like to walk in and let the waves hit me as I picture it washing away all the things that perplex me and I come out of the water feeling free.   It is when the ocean is stirring up a tempest that fear sets in and I used to force myself to stare into it and say bring it!  I have learned the tempests in my life are also important to break me loose from things that are holding me back, things that have me tethered like a boat to a dock,  the complacency of just sitting watching the ebb and flow of life and not doing anything. The tempests of life shake us up and force us to move and to grow.  As I look back at all the storms of my life, I finally realized how very important they were in shaping the woman I have become.  Today, I stand in humble confidence and very grateful knowing the Universe sent those storms in my life to make me strong, and give me the ability to help others brave the storms and return to port victorious!

Many Blessings!