Change! It is a word that can invoke fear into one’s heart. Fear of the unknown and “what if’s”. It is normal to think about how change can effect your life. It is normal to weigh the pros and cons when possible. But what about those changes that completely blindside us. Changes like losing a job, losing a home to a disaster, being involved in an accident, losing a love one? How do we handle the unexpected changes?
I have had a lot of unexpected changes in my life, and I will be honest, I did not handle them very well. I was truly awful at dealing with change. I would throw a fit, lament over it, get angry about it, get depressed over it, try to ignore it, or worse yet, try to bury it with alcohol. No matter what method I used to deal with it, the outcome was the same, the change was still there, and no matter how I tried to make it go away, there it was in front of my face 24/7 laughing at me, taunting me to challenge it.
So what did I do, you might ask? I did just that! I challenged it! I started asking the change, “Ok, what are you trying to teach me?” “What am I doing in my life that needs correction?” “What new truth do I need to embrace?” Sometimes change comes into our lives because we ask for it. SAY WHAT? I didn’t ask for a woman to slam into the back of my car going 65 mph at a red light leaving my body broken and crippled! That’s right, I did not ask for that. However, on many occasions, I had voiced that my ultimate dream was to be able to wake up in the morning and choose what I wanted to do that day, whether it be paint, write, sculpt, sing etc. Through the tragedy of the accident, I got exactly what I had been dreaming of. Now, I do have the choice every single morning to do exactly what I want to do during the day. I am not going to say I embraced the change immediately. There was A LOT of days that I cried, was bitter, was depressed, felt like a burden to my family. It was through the support of some wonderful women who had also been through adversity in their lives and had risen above it , I learned how to embrace the change and turn it to my advantage. I also learned a very valuable lesson, Be Careful What You Wish For and Speak Out to the Universe! I was taught as a child in church, ” So shall my word be that goeth forth out of my mouth: it shall not return unto me void, but it shall accomplish that which I please, and it shall prosper in the thing whereto I sent it.” Isaiah 55:11. (Though I no longer walk the organized religion path, I am an ordained minister, hold a theology degree and still embrace some of the teachings.) This verse became a reality in my life in a very real way.
In conclusion, I have found the best way to handle change is to be prepared in your mind and spirit that it is coming eventually and then embrace it when it happens. Sit back, study the change and it’s effects and then accept the lesson it is bringing , and embrace the newness in your life.
Until the next time, Beautiful Souls, many blessings to you.
Good Morning Beautiful Souls! I hope this finds all of you wonderfully blessed in your lives.
How many of you are truly happy with your lives? Do you wake up in the morning excited with a new day ahead of you and new adventures to explore? Or do you groan as you shut off the alarm, roll out of bed with a sigh and trudge off to deal with the day?
I am going to give you a little glimpse into my day as I see it.
The first alarm goes off, snooze button is pushed and I roll over into my hubby’s waiting arms and we snuggle until next alarm goes off. As he gets ready for work I go into the kitchen and prepare our coffee. Then we go out to the balcony and sit, watching the sunrise as we drink our morning coffee, discuss our plans for the day and enjoy the splendor of the view of the lake behind our home. Then when the time comes, I give him a “be blessed” kiss and send him off to work. I venture off to my favorite waterfall for my morning cleansing and meditation time. Next, it is off to school for my morning classes. When my classes are finished, then it is to my office to check and deal with my email, checking in with my colleagues, posting or schedule posts, return messages and phone calls. My gentle alarm goes off letting me know it is time for my lunch date with my hubby. We meet at a quaint little cafe between his place of work and my office and have lunch together, discussing how our morning went. Our time is so short it seems but we talk about how to change that. My afternoons are spent with my daughter studying criminal psychology while I am working on art projects to supplement our income. I take a break to walk in nature and converse with the wildlife on my way to the mailbox. I get excited! It is the first of the month, time for commission checks and royalty checks to come in. I briefly sit on the front porch opening the mail, mentally adding the amounts and text my hubby telling him to put in his two weeks notice because we finally have the financial freedom for him to retire. He comes home early and we sit on our porch having a celebratory drink watching the woodland creatures play at the edge of the lake and woods. Then it is off to the studio to work on our music and work with whichever band is here practicing for the night. At the end of the night, we climb into bed truly grateful for all the blessings in our life. As I drift off to sleep I am whispering “I Am” statements to the heavens knowing that as I affirm positivity into my life, the Universe will make it happen.
I have an awesome life, right?
That my, dear ones, is how I visualize my day every day. Part of it is reality, but the rest is what I am speaking and imagining into being. Thoughts become reality. The reality is we sit in our shed out back in the morning under the fan because it is already sweltering at 7 am in Florida. The quaint little cafe is our living room. My daughter and my criminal psychology studies are binge-watching CSI while I work on my crafts to sell. My trip to the mailbox is 30 ft away, but I do commune with the squirrels, birds and lizards. Instead of money in my mailbox, it is usually bills or unwanted junk mail. We do sit on the porch, but our view is a school across the street, 3 businesses beside us and the wildlife we watch are the idiots speeding around the corner and down our street. The work in the studio is a reality and the way I end my night.
Remember pretending when you were a child? Visualization is adult pretending. The amazing thing is that some of the things we have ” pretended” have become reality in our lives. We have learned to focus on the positive, believe in our dreams and the Universe is delivering them to us. Try “pretending” a little and see what you can manifest in your life.
My life is a symphony that has been played by the wrong instruments. I have allowed the wrong musicians and composers to write the words and music. I have allowed their words and music to drowned out my own, blocking the remembering of my purpose in coming to this earth at this space in time to the point of causing utter confusion and turmoil in my life. I have been searching for clarity and it has been an elusive creature. My search has ended. Like a bolt from the God of Thunder, clarity has struck me and it is time for me to rise and shine and bring back the glory of the Universe. To write my own words and music for my soul’s purpose. To repaint the canvas of my life. To replace the threads pulled from my tapestry. To pick up my sword and strike down and bury completely the yesterdays of my life and to allow the Divine to flow through me and shine into the lives of others. To bring peace and love to those who suffer physically, emotionally and spiritually.
The one constant thing in life is change. If you are not changing you are not growing. And as always in growing, there are growing pains. We have been going through a lot of changes in our life in the past few months and some of it has been quite painful as we finally had to come to grips with the fact that the things we experience in our lives are of our own choosing. What? Wait? I chose this trial, challenge or hardship in my life? Yep, that’s right you did! By words and deeds, we tell the Universe what to send into our lives to learn the lessons we are supposed to master. The Universe wants us to live happy, abundant lives. If we are constantly complaining about what is happening, what we don’t have, how sucky life is, that is what the Universe will send for us to learn to be thankful for what we do have. I recently heard this example from a mentor, Jenn Scalia. Her laptop was acting up. She continued to complain about it and use the excuse that she couldn’t afford a new one. Then one day it crashed and then she was forced into the choice of buying a new one. (I interject here that this was not a laptop used for social media or play but used for her online business and a vital tool for her.) My point is our words and deeds, and even our thoughts, force us into a situation that may not be favorable or comfortable for us. Isn’t it better to make the choice yourself? Isn’t it better to take the initiative to take positive action on your own, instead of being forced to take action?