The Best made plans

I don’t know about you but I am a planner.  I have to do lists for my to do lists.  For any event, I plan it down to the most minute detail.  How many times have you planned everything to a T and at the last minute or the worst possible time something went wrong and then you are thrown into a tizzy and get mad at yourself for not planning for something to go wrong?  My husband always says, “plan for the best but expect the worse!”  My OCD perfectionist side screams, “NO, I will not allow anything to go wrong.”  Well beautiful souls, I learned the hard way that I am not in control of everything, no matter how much planning I do ahead of time or how hard I work to make everything perfect.  

The Universe is funny like that.  Sometimes things happen that at the moment seem bad to allow for better things to happen.  It is not always convenience and comfortable but the lessons learned are very valuable.  We learn to work through situations instead of letting them destroy us.   In the parable about the King and the Boulder (author unknown) there is a very valuable lesson to learn about obstacles.  To paraphrase the parable, This king placed a huge boulder in the middle of the road.  The people of the kingdom would come upon the boulder and start complaining.  One day, a peasant happened by and moved the boulder out of his way.  Underneath it he found a purse full of coin.  The moral of the story, as I see it, is great riches can be had if we deal with the obstacles in our lives instead of sitting back and complaining about them.  

What obstacle in your life have you been complaining about?   Is it your health? Finances? Maybe your job?  Maybe you sit back and look at your life and think, “this is not what I dreamed my life would be.”  Oh the best made plans!  In my youth, I dreamed of being a famous singer, a teacher, a wife and mother.  Never once in those times when I was dreaming did I say, ” I want to be a 2x divorcee, give birth to 4 children and lose 2 in death.  I want to be in 3 very abusive relationships that will scar my very soul.  I want to lose everything and be crippled up in a near fatal accident.” I didn’t dream it or plan for it, but those things happened to me.  It took me many years of struggle with that “boulder in the road”, but I can tell you today,  because I made the effort to do the work to remove the boulders in my way, I am happily married, have 43 children who call me Mom, I am a teacher and minister to the souls of many and I sing to my heart’s content.  No, I am not a famous singer, but I am known for my voice in my local area and that is good enough for me, for now.  The scars have been erased from my soul.  Thanks to a wonderful friend and reiki healer, I am no longer crippled up from my accident.  Do I still have to do lists for my to do lists?  Hell yeah!  However, now when those obstacles drop in my path instead of getting upset and flustered, I drop back, access the situation and come up with a strategy to overcome the boulder in my path and have found valuable treasures awaiting me.

Until next time,

Many Blessings

Ceri

The Winds of Change

Good Morning Beautiful Souls,

As the autumns winds begin to blow, changes begin.  It is a time of delving into the shadows and releasing things that no longer serve you.  For many months now I have been struggling with what my true mission here on this earth was suppose to be.  I have been though so many life experiences, that I didn’t know which story to tell or where my gifts would fit into the scheme of things.

The past couple weeks there have been some major changes taking place in our lives. The business where my husband works was sold and has switched hands causing major worries about whether his job was safe or not.  The band he plays with has been getting more gigs and is building momentum it may be necessary for him to retire from his brick & mortar job to be free to travel.   While this has all been very stressful, in maintaining an attitude of gratitude and not allowing the situation to control our emotions, it has lead to my making a major leap towards my own goals.  Thus the name change on this page.  I have finally found my niche and my brand.  I have spent my whole life living in, overcome, and surviving traumas (and dramas).   My gift and passion is to help others do the same.

During this time when the world focuses on what they are thankful for, I am very grateful for the experiences I have lived through and overcome.  I am grateful to you family for sticking with me through thick and thin.  I am grateful for my “Sisters” who have been with me every step of the way these past 4 years to help bring me to where I am today.  And, I am grateful to the Divine for allowing me to chose this time and place to share my wisdom, love and gifts with the world.

Many Blessings,

Ceri

Stop! Breathe!

*Some content of this post may be too graphic for the weak in constitution.

Sometimes life can get so busy and chaotic that we get to the point where we don’t know which way to turn next.  The past couple of weeks have been that way for me.  So much to do in front of me that I didn’t know where to start first or which direction to take next.   So what did I do about it?  NOTHING!  I took a time out!  I meditated on everything and asked the Universe for clarity.  Amazing how when we get quiet and allow our mind and body to rest, things once again become clear.

Our minds are like a computer, constantly storing things.  And, like the computer, sometimes we become fragmented and slows down.  Confusion sets in.  This is why self-care is so very important!  When we do not take time to defragment our mind, it can affect all areas of our lives.  People tell me, “I don’t have time to meditate, I don’t have time to slow down.”  My answer is always, “Do you have time to be sick?”  Then I explain to them, if they do not make the time, even if it is a few minutes, to quiet their mind and body, eventually they will deplete their adrenaline and they will be forced to slow down due to illness.  Stress causes you to be in a constant, continual “fight or flight” mode.  This, in turn, depletes your adrenaline which can cause a cascading effect on your body leading to many different diseases like heart disease, diabetes, even cancer.  *Some people don’t even take a moment to relax when they are in the bathroom!  They are checking their phones, texting, reading Facebook…raising my hand here, as I am guilty of doing this myself, mainly out of boredom.  ( Am I the only one who gets bored in the bathroom?  Hell, I used to read the shampoo bottles, cleaning supply bottles etc. just for something to do while sitting there.)

The first step to self-care is to be mindful of our bodies, thoughts, and actions.  It only takes a few seconds to stop, close your eyes, put your hand on your heart, and take a few deep breaths.  This centers you back into awareness of your body.  Do it several times a day,  (Yes, even in the bathroom,) and see how much calmer you feel.  And, as a side note, think grateful thoughts during that few moments to add to the effect.  So much of our time is wasted that could be spent in gratitude and love.  Your mission, should you chose to accept it, is to take one day and write down how you spend every minute of that day (yes even bathroom time!)  Look it over, then the next day, chose several moments in time to purposely use that time to breathe, think thoughts of gratitude, or simply smile.  Believe it or not, the simple act of smiling increases endorphins in your brain!  Then at the end of the day, write down how you felt that day and how the end of your day felt.  I would love to hear feedback on your results.  Did you feel better or worse?

Until next time,

Many Blessings to You!

Ceri

P.S.  *Back to the bathroom thing.  Now instead of reading everything in sight or looking at my phone, I sit there and think grateful thoughts like, “thank you I have indoor plumbing”, “thank you I have  running water”, ” thank you my body is so wonderfully made that it has an evacuation system that does the work for me and I don’t have to use enemas to evacuate the waste,” etc.  Even the simple moments in time are important in the reflection of gratitude.

But How?

Sometimes we are faced with challenges in our lives that make our faith falter.  We want to believe the Universe has our back and will supply everything we need but instead of just trusting, we want to know the “but hows?”  How am I going to pay for this car repair?  How am I going to pay for that doctor bill?  What am I going to do now?  Then we go about trying to force things in the natural when if we just believe, the Universe* already has a plan to work it out for us.

For example, you are looking for the perfect mate for your life.  You know exactly what qualities you want so you go about searching for that person.  You go on dating sights and find a person who is a perfect match according to the sight’s standards.  And all the while, the Universe has been working behind the scenes to facilitate the meeting of you and the “perfect” person for you to meet at the right time, and yet you are accepting societies standards because we are impatient.  I admit I have done this myself.  I had this idea of who I wanted to spend the rest of my life with, my set of standards.  Then I began doubting myself.  Maybe my standards were too high.  Was I expecting too much?  This led me to three very damaging relationships of emotional, mental and physical abuse.  In my quest to be accepted and loved, I settled for far less than what I deserved and received treatment I DID NOT deserve.  It was only when I finally gave up and accepted the fact I was meant to be single (or so I thought), the Universe was able to work it’s magic for me and sent my “perfect man” to me.  It just happened to be my first love, the boy I fell in love with when I was 13 but couldn’t make adults understand then it was our destiny.  Thirty- seven years after my Dad broke us up, the Universe brought us back together 3 years ago and it has been the happiest 3 years of my life.  Since then I have learned to stop asking “HOW” and just trust it to happen.

Now don’t misunderstand me here.  I am not saying we just ask the Universe for something, then sit on our ass and expect it to be handed to us.  When you make a declaration, decision or set an intention, you also have to put action to it.  In the case of the story above, I gave up trying to find love on my own because I realized I had to work on me first.  I was in no place emotionally to be in a committed relationship with anyone.  You first have to love yourself before you can love others.  As I said, I had been through 3 abusive relationships in a span of 6 years and blamed the men for the problem.  I finally realized I was the problem.  I had no self-esteem, no self-love, and because of that, I allowed them to abuse me.  Yes, that’s right, I said: “I allowed”.  No one can do something to us unless we allow it.  If you are angry, it is because you allow yourself to be angry.  If you are sad, it is because you allow yourself to dwell there.  It is okay to feel those feelings, but it is most important to process the feelings and let them go.  Do not dwell in the victim mentality mire.  Don’t worry about the “how’s”, just set your intentions, take action to the best of your ability, be grateful for the things that are going right in your life and trust the Universe to take care of the rest.  The Universe gives you exactly what your thoughts and words ask for.  Practice this week being grateful for the good things in your life.  Dwell on those things.  If it is hard, start with something simple like being thankful for the air you breathe and that your body is so wonderfully made that you don’t have to think to breathe, it just happens.  Then you can build from there.  Do you have a roof over your head at night?  Did you eat something today?  Start with the little things in life and work up to the bigger things.  The more we concentrate on the positive and farther way the negative will go.

Wishing you all a very blessed week!

Ceri

*When I use the term Universe, I am speaking of whatever Divine power (God, Goddess, Great Spirit etc.) you ascribe to.  We are pagan and believe everyone has the ability to be God or Goddess-like. It is all in how you live your life and how you interact with the Universe around you; humans, animals, plant-life etc.  I believe I am not a human being having a spiritual experience, but a spirit being having a human experience.  It is my mission in life to remember that which I forgot in the process of human birth and my passion is to help others do the same by helping them navigate through the difficulties of life.

Gaining Freedom in Your Soul

Blessings Dear Souls,

Yesterday I spoke about letting go. It is one of the hardest things I have ever had to do. I was the girl in school who everybody loved to either pick on or ignore. I was never good enough for the social classes, wasn’t bad enough for the rough crowd, wasn’t physically able to fit in with the jocks, I wasn’t smart enough to hang with the intellectuals. Because of that, I grew up feeling I had to be what others wanted just to fit into the norm of society. I had a parent who made me feel like I was never good enough.  I have been in relationships where I was put down, treated like a servant, abused mentally, emotionally, verbally and physically.  Metallica’s song, “Broken, Beat & Scarred” and Whitesnake’s “Here I Go Again” had become my theme songs.  I have been on a 4-year journey of trying to break free of the fear of being me and who I am supposed to be. I had a HUGE breakthrough last month in several areas where this had affected my life and now I feel so free to be the real me.

I finally realized I was treated the way I was because I ALLOWED IT! I allowed the disrespect because I wanted to fit in. I allowed the abuse because I was afraid to stand up for myself. I finally realized I am a uniquely created individual not meant to fit into the mold others were trying to shove me into. I could not live my life’s purpose because I was not being the person I was meant to be here on this earth. My first step was to forgive, not the people who had wronged me,  to forgive MYSELF for allowing them to manipulate me into the situations that caused me pain. Once I did this, the pain disappeared. Now when thoughts of certain people in my life come to mind, the story has changed and I no longer feel the anger, bitterness or pain. That in itself has brought me so much freedom in my soul.  Once you have the freedom in your soul, the other areas of your life fall into alignment and life becomes beautiful and amazing!

Blessings,

Ceri