Facts vs. Opinions

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Con·tro·ver·sy /ˈkäntrəˌvərsē/
noun: disagreement, typically when prolonged, public, and heated.

Good Morning Beautiful Souls,
This morning I was thinking about the word controversy. There seems to be a lot of it in the world these days. I have come to the conclusion that all controversy is rooted in opinions, good, bad or indifferent. Even when presented with the facts, you will still have people who will argue their opinion even on the stupidest of things. You can comment, ” oh what a beautiful day, look at that beautiful blue sky,” and they will look up and see a small dark cloud among all the beautiful beautiful blue sky and, in their opinion, comment about it will surely rain because of that tiny dark cloud.
Facts seem to go by the wayside as everyone tries to express their own opinion on a subject. There have been a lot of differences of opinion in many areas lately and in each situation key facts have been ignored. Facts are facts! Opinions are a person’s idea or take of a situation. Many opinions are instilled or taught us at very early ages. We carry those opinions into adulthood. Unless we learn to think for ourselves at some point, we are doomed to repeat the same cycles of those opinions as we learned from our parents, grandparents, other adults and peers. When we learn to think for ourselves we form our own opinions and whether good, bad, or indifferent, we trying to convince others our opinions are right.
Recently, I have started inplementing something into my own life. Before I share an opinion I ask myself,

  1. Is this fact or just my opinion? If it is my opinion, I state it is my opinion in the conversation.
  2. Does my opinion really matter to this person, or in mentioning my opinion is it going to start controversy in the relationship?
  3. Will my opinion change the situation? Or better yet, am I willing to use my opinion to implement change in the situation?
    If the answer is “no” to any of the above, I keep my opinion to myself. Personally, for myself, if I want someone’s opinion, I will ask for it. If their opinion is just going to start an argument, keep it to themselves.because I don’t want nor need the drama in my life. Some people live for controversy and when you feed into it, it just strokes their ego and that is not helping them to become the best person they can be. I prefer to be earth and water, not fire and air. Fire fuels fire. Air fuels fire. When you fan the flames of a fire it gets bigger. When you fan the flames of controversy, it also grow into uncontrollable proportions. I encourage you to be grounded like the earth and seek wisdom (not just knowledge) before you invite controversy in your life.


Good Morning and Blessed Sunday Dear Beautiful Souls

Word: “a single distinct meaningful element of speech or writing, used with others (or sometimes alone) to form a sentence. ” Oxford Dictionary

This morning I want to speak to you about words. Words are the most power, and sometimes, the most destructive tool we own. Our words describe who we are, what we believe and how we live our lives. I have often said don’t judge a person by their words, but by their actions. However, a person’s words can sometimes define their actions. For it is what we believe inside that fuels the words and actions.

Words in themselves are not good or bad. It is the action they take that makes the difference. Words can express love or spew hate. Words can uplift or tear a person down. Words can inspire or drive people from inspiration. They can create or they can destroy creativity. The images created by the words determine how someone interprets them. You can look at a person as they are speaking and interpret if the words they are speaking are sincere and felt. For example, a child can say they are sorry to someone because an adult forces them to but you can tell by the look in their eyes if they truly mean it or if it is a conditioned response to being told to do so. In the same way, you can look at a person and tell by their body language if the words they are speaking are true.
With the invention of social media, the art of true communication has been lost. Words are being written but there is no way to correctly interpret the true meaning. Yes, we know the meaning of the words themselves, but if you do not know the person with whom you are speaking personally, how do you know what their true feelings are behind the words.y

Suppose you are having a conversation with someone and say “I Love You.” Maybe you have built an online relationship with the person, but you have never met them in person. This simple little group of words alone has so many different meanings. There are 4 different types of love. There is Agape, love of mankind; Philia, love of friends; Storge, love of parents for children; and Eros, erotic passionate love. When you use the simple phrase, “I love you” in written form, it is open for interpretation to the reader. I used this phrase here for sake of example, but this goes for anything. You could easily say ” I hate you” and it, too, can have many interpretations. It could be said as a joke to mean “I am so jealous of you”, or it can be said with strong emotion. Once again, it is open to the interpretation of the reader.

In conclusion, the point I want to make is be very careful how you use your words because they come back to you one way or another. I believe strongly that what you speak will manifest. If you continue to speak loving, peaceful, joyful words into your life, abundance flows. If you continue to speak negativity, you will also reap an abundance, but of that which you do not want. When I was growing up, I was taught “So shall my word be that goeth forth out of my mouth: it shall not return unto me void, but it shall accomplish that which I please, and it shall prosper in the thing whereto I sent it.” (Isaiah 55:11). I don’t usually quote bible verses, but this concept has remained a staple in my everyday life. Many modern writers have said the same thing but in a different way. Mike Dooley says “Words become things.” Wayne Dyer said “Don’t allow your thoughts to be on anything you don’t want.” This is not a woo woo mystic guru concept. This is very real! Especially with what is going on in the world today, it is so very important that we choose our words wisely. Use them to inspire, not tear down. Use them to encourage and lift others up not heap more curses upon their heads. If you don’t understand, ask. If someone’s words do not resonate with you, don’t listen or read them. Speak your truth, but don’t expect everyone to agree with you. What is truth for you may not be truth to someone else.

Many Blessings

Hello, Are You Awake?

Blessings my Dear Beautiful Souls! It has been so long since we have communed together. It seems like being human can be one of our biggest challenges in today’s world. I hope this finds you well and happy.

I am not going to hash over all the craziness that has been going on in the world. I am sure you have been bombarded enough though social media, the media, friends, family and even enemies during this time of forced isolation. Here in our home, our daily lives changed only minutely as my husband was already not working due to a back injury in August and my daughter and I both work from home. Except for traveling with the band on weekends, we rarely go out. My children (both adults) and I have a designated errand day each week when we take care of all the necessary shopping. The biggest change for me, was dedicating more time for me.

In February, I went back to college. Some think me insane doing so at 58 years old, but I am loving it. I am studying things that I have always wanted to but never had the time nor ambition to do so. But something happened within me towards the end of February that has changed my life completely. As always, I sat down in December and made a list of things I wanted to accomplish in 2020. On February 23rd, I was standing out under the new moon, being a time of new beginnings, and cried out for more meaning in my life. I knew something was missing but I couldn’t figure out what it was. I mean, why was I not content? I have a wonderful life! But deep within me something was stirring (and no it wasn’t indigestion or gas) and I knew, in my soul, change was coming and being impatient, I wanted to know what it was NOW!

Have you ever been around that person who is just so hard headed that you can speak to them several times and they still miss what you are trying to say? Someone you are trying to get their attention and you finally have to physically touch them to get it? Well, I will be fully transparent and honest here, I am that person. The Universe had been giving me signs for months yet my eyes and ears were closed. I had, once again, fallen asleep in my complacency. I was once again existing and going through the motions without truly living. I had once again fallen into my conditioned response mode. You know that place where you get so tired or bored with things that you just fall back into old habits and conditioned living. My wake up call came hard and fast on March 5th when I collided with a huge dog on a major highway and could not put on my brakes or stop or I would have caused a major pile up and possibly several deaths including my husband and mine. The accident itself was not the wake up call though. The wake up call was that sometimes we have to push through the challenges in our lives or things can and will pile up.

I was awakened that night in more ways than one. I discovered a new formula for handling life’s challenges.

  1. Don’t panic–take a few deep breaths and sit quietly
  2. Look at the situation as an outsider. What advice or words of wisdom would you give to someone else in that situation.
  3. If you can’t see your way over it, around it, under it, or through it, ASK FOR HELP!
  4. Stop and ask yourself, “Will this matter a year from now?”
  5. Have a heart of gratitude for the lessons presented and learned in the situation. This one is most important of all because it is only when we accept things, deal with them and let them go with a grateful heart that we receive abundance.

In all that happened, new gifts have opened up for me and things are flowing freely from the spirit realm. New ideas, insights, goals and the means to make things happen. Please understand, I am not saying your need to go through some traumatic situation or challenge to awaken. All you have to have is an open heart and a willingness to listen to that still small voice as it speaks to you. Don’t be like a mule who has to be hit upside the head to get it’s attention like I was. And be prepared if you ask for something, you may not like how the answer arrives, but I can guarantee it will be for your greatest and highest good.



Being Prepared when Being Human Hits

Good Morning Beautiful Souls!

I first want to apologize. It has been quite a while since I have posted. Life has it’s shit storms and we were hit with a big one in August when my hubby was hurt on the job and subsequently forced into retirement. Not to say it was a bad thing, because it was actually a blessing in disguise, but at the time it was like being hit by a hurricane.
One of my favorite quotes is “I am a spiritual being having a human experience.” It took me a long time to reach the point where this was true for me. For most of my life I was a human trying to be spiritual. It wasn’t until my eyes and heart were opened to the fact that I am a part of the Divine, (some call it being a child of God, call it whatever you like to envelope whatever your beliefs are) living in a human body to experience human lessons. As a part of Divinity, I have everything at my fingertips to navigate within this realm with the mantle of God surrounding me and the light of love within me. I have the ability available to me to live above the troubles and cares of this world and the choice to do so. The trouble begins when I forget who I am. When life hits me with situations that as a human seem impossible to handle.
This is when I should be tapping into the divine resources to handle the situation. Instead, more times than not, I find myself slipping back into my humanity. The warriors of anger, worry, frustrations and fear rise up and overwhelm my gentle divine spirit. Then the battle is on and the lesson to be learned either takes longer than it should or isn’t learned at all causing it to raise it’s ugly head again in the future. Hell, I lived in the human realm for 50 years so old habits are hard to break. What I mean by this is I played church. I thought I was a spiritual person because I was there every time the doors were open and following the edicts, rules and routines perfectly. It wasn’t until my eyes were truly opened and I learned what true spirituality was that I began to grow and become the person I was meant to be here in this time and space on earth. It was then I realized the answers are not found in a building or community, but from the divine within myself.
So how do I handle those times when my human side hits the wall? First, I find a quiet place and sit in silence for a few minutes. Then I tap into my heart space. I have learned everything becomes clear when tempered through love. I close my eyes, put my hand on my heart and take 3 deep breaths. Then I ask the Divine for guidance in the situation. Secondly, I sit quietly and listen. Sometimes listening is the hardest part. I am easily distracted by the outside world and little noises. So, I put on binary frequencies in the frequency best suited to the situation at the moment. I keep my journal handy to write down anything that comes to mind. Then I take the messages I receive and act on them. I have learned the hard way that if I ignore the messages coming through, I will continue to struggle with the situation over and over again until the lesson is learned.
Wishing you all a wonderfully blessed week!

All We Need is Love

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(Warning: Some content below may a little delicate for some, but I believe in keeping it real so I make no apologies.}
More often than not, we see this in relationships today. People focus on what’s on the outside not what is on the inside. I have heard so many times just in the past year of partnerships ending after years of being together. Once the glory and beauty of the flower of love are gone, then there is nothing left because people no longer connect on a soul level. I come from the generation of peace, love and rock & roll. I come from the Woodstock era, when love was felt not just thrown around. People envision and we taught that it was a “feel love (meaning sex) time. However, “hookups” were made because people felt the vibe of a person’s soul not how they looked on the outside. When “vibes” was not just a word but a feeling. Today it is “that’s hot, I want to tap that,” with absolutely no thought for the consequences. I had an object lesson I used to teach at the girl’s home where I worked. I would give them a piece of duct tape and tell them to go around sticking it on each other. Soon they would bring it back to me telling me it didn’t stick anymore. I told them that is what happens when they have sex with many different people. Each time you have sex with a different person, you give a little piece of yourself away. After a while, there is nothing left to give to that one person you are meant to be with. Toxic or abusive relationships taken even bigger part of you away. After a breakup, if you do not fully bring the pieces of your shattered soul back together, you carry that on to the next relationship. After a while there is nothing left to give to another. Relationships, in proper balance, is an equal amount of sharing. I have heard it said that each partner should give 100%. This is all well and good, but what if your partner only give 10, 25, 30%. It is not a game of teeter totter. Both partners should do what they can to keep the line balanced. AND, I don’t mean “well, she did this, so I should do that!” It is not a competition! It should be a natural balance based on respect, honor and love. Should things become out of balance, there should be enough trust and respect to sit down and discuss the imbalance and how to correct it. Anything less is control on one side or the other and that is not love and compassion.
Many Blessings