Change! It is a word that can invoke fear into one’s heart. Fear of the unknown and “what if’s”. It is normal to think about how change can effect your life. It is normal to weigh the pros and cons when possible. But what about those changes that completely blindside us. Changes like losing a job, losing a home to a disaster, being involved in an accident, losing a love one? How do we handle the unexpected changes?
I have had a lot of unexpected changes in my life, and I will be honest, I did not handle them very well. I was truly awful at dealing with change. I would throw a fit, lament over it, get angry about it, get depressed over it, try to ignore it, or worse yet, try to bury it with alcohol. No matter what method I used to deal with it, the outcome was the same, the change was still there, and no matter how I tried to make it go away, there it was in front of my face 24/7 laughing at me, taunting me to challenge it.
So what did I do, you might ask? I did just that! I challenged it! I started asking the change, “Ok, what are you trying to teach me?” “What am I doing in my life that needs correction?” “What new truth do I need to embrace?” Sometimes change comes into our lives because we ask for it. SAY WHAT? I didn’t ask for a woman to slam into the back of my car going 65 mph at a red light leaving my body broken and crippled! That’s right, I did not ask for that. However, on many occasions, I had voiced that my ultimate dream was to be able to wake up in the morning and choose what I wanted to do that day, whether it be paint, write, sculpt, sing etc. Through the tragedy of the accident, I got exactly what I had been dreaming of. Now, I do have the choice every single morning to do exactly what I want to do during the day. I am not going to say I embraced the change immediately. There was A LOT of days that I cried, was bitter, was depressed, felt like a burden to my family. It was through the support of some wonderful women who had also been through adversity in their lives and had risen above it , I learned how to embrace the change and turn it to my advantage. I also learned a very valuable lesson, Be Careful What You Wish For and Speak Out to the Universe! I was taught as a child in church, ” So shall my word be that goeth forth out of my mouth: it shall not return unto me void, but it shall accomplish that which I please, and it shall prosper in the thing whereto I sent it.” Isaiah 55:11. (Though I no longer walk the organized religion path, I am an ordained minister, hold a theology degree and still embrace some of the teachings.) This verse became a reality in my life in a very real way.
In conclusion, I have found the best way to handle change is to be prepared in your mind and spirit that it is coming eventually and then embrace it when it happens. Sit back, study the change and it’s effects and then accept the lesson it is bringing , and embrace the newness in your life.
Until the next time, Beautiful Souls, many blessings to you.